My Dad Found out!

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magical powers to make a drunkard into a sensible accepting father? If I had that power I'd be traveling all over the world fixing people. Unfortunatly I do not and there's probably the chance that he'll never come around to accapting the fandom. It's a sad fact but I do applaud you on doing your best to keep it hidden. But now taht it's out I agree it must feel like you're life is falling apart but please don't. there are mush worse things that could happen to you; it's not the end of the world. I think waht you need to try and do is get back up and just keep doing it under his radar. this is a risky thing to do but it's your life and ya you might get more hell in the long run but you would't be one of us if you didn;t like it. As for AC, unless the world blows up there'll be next year and by then you'll be 18, my advice... save up for a car. 18 + car= nothing he can do to stop you.

For Heaven's sake, what is the big deal? Just what did you tell your father about furry fandom that made him react so strongly?

You need to educate the man as to what the fandom is really about. We have tons of FAQ's on this page to help with that.

Sorry, I'm afraid my magical powers are limited to turning invisible in pitch black rooms.
But I do have some advice for getting a job. if you have friends that already have jobs, get them to vouch for you. After a seven month job hunt where I sent out at least ten applications a week, I finally allowed my friend to do so. I found myself working two days later.
And of course, don't tell your prospective employer the REAL reason you want to work where you are applying if you get interviews. I only started to want to go to AC a month ago (and i DEFINITELY wouldn't have told them that reason). Before I started saving for that, I told my interviewers that I owed my parents a lot of money. the truth is the wrong way to go about 99.9999% of the time in that area judging by my experience.
And just out of curiosity I promise. how did he find out? you didn't have a fur pic for a background did you? That's how my mom found out while I was powering up my computer.

Umm...That really sucks. I'm the same age as you are but both my parents are on more of a "don't ask don't tell" kind of thing. Not that there's any real problem anyway. I reccomend hiding everything and hightailing it(sorry for the pun)to the nearest con the moment you turn 18.

Actually, come to think of it, I live just over 65 miles away from you. Want I should ruff him up? Just joking of course, but I feel that you needed a laugh.

First off I am really sorry that you are in the situation and that your dad is flying off the handle. It sounds like your father might be reluctant to accept things, and is letting his fears about things he doesn't understand get to him. I agree that you should try and educate him if you can, but if that is just gonna make things worse, then I wouldn't try too hard. Right now I think you have the right idea about working and saving up. I know it is gonna be hard and it may seem overwhelming, but just hang in there and keep trying. If you need support I know almost anyone here would be more than willing to give you encouragement and someone to talk to. I hope everything works out and I hope your dad calms down.

Awwwh poor you ;-; that's what I'm kinda worried telling my parents, but really I don't think they'd react that serious.. just probally think I'm some crazeh person, more so then they already do.

I really can't tell you anything else more then everyone else has. But I've had troubles in the past before similar to this, getting screamed at, etc.. If you ever need anyone to vent to, well I'm here :3

But if you need to take out any stress, might I perhaps suggest playing a ifghting videogame? I mean it's not much, but whenever I get mad, that's what I do. Or I just draw, helps calm me down a little bit when I get worked up. Whenever my mom's old ex boyfriend used to yell at me,thankfully he's gone, I'd jsut sit there listen to it, then walk off and sing. I dunno why, but it seemed to make things a little better. Maybe if you have any nerby friends you can bunk with them for a little bit? Then again I'd only do that in worst case scenarios

This is simple. Wait on attending Anthrocon until you're 18+. But first, get a job, save up, get a car, and get a place to live. I'm not sure where you are, but I'm sure you can find something affordable.

So...Job, car, move out. In that order.

Then if you want to go to AC, there's no way he can stop you--as long as you're not still living under his roof or using his funds, nothing to stop you.

I'm pullin' for ya--I had parents only a smidget less crazy >.> And I didn't even give them any clues as to my being furry...even made all my furry art folders invisible on the computer [and I didn't even have any sexual/mature art in them! It was all PG or lower :P]

My parents were more of a "How much is THIS gonna cost us?" kind of reactionaries, so I guess I don't know everything you are going through, but if your finances are extremely limited, I suggest you become an internet only furry until you can escape the funny farm when you are 18 or so.

People are full of misconceptions about everything, and will often jump to conclusions, particularly when they THINK they are protecting their children. Remember that no matter how bizarre the behavior they exhibit, they wouldn't act that way unless you mattered to them. Of course they could also just be drain bammaged.

Get a good education, try to get scholarships etc if you can and go away to college.... I hear Pittsburgh is nice *wink wink*

One more point here is that if you don't have the money to participate in furry stuff, he can't really prevent you from doing something you can't afford to do anyway, so........ don't let it bug you.

Jeef

Yeah, this seems to be one of those, my house, my rules situations. Like a lot of folks suggested, I would just wait until you have the means to move out and then attend. ...and don't stress over this. There are a lot of obstacles you'll have to endure in life. The trick is not letting yourself get crushed under their weight ^_~ You'll be okay. Just take your time and do what you have to do to make your life a better one...even if that means enduring for just a little while. *hugs*

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When you give up on yourself, you give up on those who believe in you. Always be true to yourself and never let anyone define who you are.

Well, the simplest answers that I give to people when they ask about why I go to conventions are some of the people I have met. I've been very fortunate to have been able to dine with past Guests of Honor like Floyd Norman, Scott Shaw!, Stan Sakai, and Rob Paulsen. (I was actually quite delighted that Rob actually saw me in the restaurant and asked me by name to join him for breakfast.) Being able to converse with animation legends and prominent voice actors is really a big draw to Anthrocon for me. And this year we have some pretty great guests as well. (I love that Joe Harris (creator of Underdog and many General Mills characters like the Trix Rabbit will be attending in 2009.)

As far as family being concerned, why not invite them to come along? Our chairman's parents, Grandma and Grandpa Kage, attend every year. It's quite a lively weekend, and there are plenty of new friends to be made. There will be dances, comedy and performance shows, and lots of panels about art, some science like the HAM radiofurs, costuming and puppeteering, and lots more. Only about 15% of our attendees will be in any sort of costume, so it's not like everyone will be in fursuit.

As far as moral support, you know that you can find that here. Anthrocon is a place where you make lots of friends with wildly different interests. Some may aspire to be animators, some web designers, some may be professional artists, and some may work in offices. We're a diverse group with really vivid creative and artistic streaks. If you can't attend in 2009, set your sights on 2010. But don't feel like the world is coming to an end. Your world and life are just getting started! Just think of the many great adventures and friends you have to make.

KP

Feh, you can furry and Republican.

Just look at Jim Groat, fer crying out loud!

And then there's me. >:3

So, he goes off to the bar alot, does he? I discount the opinions of people who drown their troubles in substance abuse automatically.

I must be the luckiest guy here. I'm 19, trying to go to the next anthro con, would love to make it. In order to go, I'd need to tell my mother (Single parent) where I'm going. (she worries). So, I explained to her, what it is, and told her where I want to go, she said one thing only. "I'm coming too." XD

isn't there a sexual subtext to this "furry" thing?...it is kind of odd....i mean, because i like old 'bullwinkle' cartoons, that doesn't really make me a furry right? i have to want to dress up like him and get a "special feeling" when doing so....this is probably what dad's disturbed by